So you’ve been trying to lose weight for a while now but you don’t see the results you’d like…
Let me guess, you don’t have much control over what you eat, right?
Maybe you manage to eat well most of the day. But after dinner, you prowl in the kitchen like a hungry wolf until you leap on a pack of Oreos or a jar of almond butter.
Then you tell yourself that you’ll workout harder tomorrow to balance it out.
Sounds familiar? Well trust me, I’ve been there!
I struggled with weight loss for 5 years. Trying keto, paleo, IF, running HIIT… It seemed that the more I tried, the further I got from my dream body.
Until I realised I was doing it all wrong.
Do I have your full attention now?
Ok, then here go. Here are the 3 mistakes that were slowing me down. And the one breakthrough that finally helped me reach and maintain my best self.
That’s a big one!
When I was 21 I realised I had a big sugar addiction, so I went to see a nutritionist who designed me a low-carb meal plan.
The problem is that, it messed me up for years.
Because this told my brain that some foods were forbidden. And that I was failing if I ate them.
But do you know what happens when you forbid yourself certain foods? Yes, you crave them even more!
So that switched my brain into restriction mode, and the poor bastard became obsessed with what it couldn’t have: sugar and junk food.
From then on, I would be good for a while and then I would binge. This is 101 Human behaviour really. We always swing from one extreme to the other. That’s why the key is to polarise ourselves into a balanced state of moderation.
As a result of my binging episodes, I would feel guilty. And then emotional-eat to suppress my guilt. What an unproductive cycle to be in!
So dieting basically destroyed my relationship with food. And it’s when I healed it that I finally lost weight, but more on that later 🙂
Exercising a lot
Apart from restricting myself, I had the false belief that I had to exercise a lot to be fit.
So I was putting a lot of pressure on myself.
And I got envious of my friends who hate whatever they wanted, didn’t exercise and were slim. I thought they had a super fast metabolism and that it was unfair.
I even came to think that my body was broken, which made things harder.
Don’t get me wrong, exercising is fucking awesome! And it’s crucial if you want to be healthy.
But it’s not going to make you lose weight. Not on its own at least!
The whole “calorie in vs. calorie out” theory is super outdated.
Exercising is meant to strengthen your muscles, sync your bodily functions, get your brain oxygenated, raise your dopamine level, etc.
If you rely on that to lose weight without acknowledging the other variables in the equation, you won’t see results and you’ll get frustrated.
Obsessing over my weight
My last mistake was to focus on my weight.
I swear, I was obsessed with the number on the scale and my reflection in the mirror!
Subconsciously, I was trapped in the success equation. Aka I’ll be happy and love myself once I’ll have my dream body.
Basically, I was creating the belief that I’d be worthy of loving myself at a certain weight.
But that’s so wrong! That’s a very self-limiting and hindering belief.
The first time I reached my goal body, I was shocked to see that I wasn’t happier. Nothing had changed. So I thought my mind was broken (lots of broken things right?).
It was because I was doing it with the wrong mindset. And I paid the price of that!
I gained all my weight back and more. And it took me 3 years to go back to my normal weight.
I first had to learn that self-love and happiness come from inside. And that relying on external things is an illusion!
So how do you lose weight the proper way? Glad you asked! That’s exactly what I’m about to tell you 🙂
The key to effortless weight loss: working on your mind
Mind and body work together. Yet in our modern societies, we neglect that truth and focus on one attribute at a time. And that’s why we struggle to get the results we want!
It’s no different when it comes to weight loss.
Most people will work on their body without addressing the mind component (like I was doing before!). What that does, is that it creates temporary and/or superficial results. Or no results at all for that matter!
So the key equation of stable weight loss actually is:
Exercising and eating healthy at least 80% of the time (physical body) + resetting your belief system and self-image (mind) = stable weight loss
The ‘exercising and eating healthy’ variable is covered all over the internet. So no need for me to tell you more about that.
However, the mind part, not so much.
That’s why I wrote a quick guide to raise awareness on that and help people start healing their relationship with food.
And make them understand that losing weight and eating well have nothing to do with willpower.
Since I’ve switched to that mindset, I’ve experienced such incredible inner peace and improvements in all areas of my life, that I felt I had to share my message with others!
You can download it below – I hope it will help you like it helped me!