Willpower, willpower, willpower.
A word that everybody knows, yet that few get to experience.
If you’re on a mission to lose weight or to curb your sugar cravings, you know what I’m talking about.
When you embark on a weight loss journey you’re stoked. Your motivation is off the charts, you know that this time, you’re gonna crush those pounds.
Yass boo, you’ve got everything figured out: HIIT workouts every other day, no carbs… or, maybe one cheat day per week. But that’s it!
Your plan is bulletproof and you know for sure that in a month, you’ll be 10 pounds lighter.
Then a few days in, your whole office is going out for lunch. You know there’s no way you’ll stick to your diet if you go, but you think it’d be rude not to. So you tell yourself ‘just this once’.
And now that you’ve slipped up the day is ruined. So you might as well make the most of it and binge on all your forbidden foods, right?
A week later, you have a bad day and no way you’re making it worse. You decide to skip your workout and give yourself a treat. You’ll just workout twice as much tomorrow to compensate.
Very soon, these occurrences multiply and everyday is a day one again. And this fit and craving-free version of yourself turns into a distant dream.
So what happened there? Is it your fault? Are you just a weak person with no willpower?
Absolutely not love, and I’ll tell you why.
You’re not aligned with yourself
First off, what is even willpower?
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as “the ability to control one’s own actions, emotions, or urges” or “strong determination that allows one to do something difficult”.
So, does it mean that someone that lacks willpower lacks determination?
If you’re failing to control your urges and junk food cravings, does it mean you don’t want it badly enough?
No at all.
What it means, is that your conscious and subconscious minds are not aligned.
Your conscious mind is super motivated to lose weight, but your subconscious mind doesn’t believe that you can do it, or that you’re worth it.
In other words, you’re not aligned with yourself. Because your conscious desires (who you are) clash with your subconscious belief system (your conditioning).
But, how did that even happen, I hear you ask? Well, here are a few possibilities:
- You’ve never been fit and/or had a healthy diet. Hence you have no physical proof that you can become that person. You don’t think it’s natural for you to be that person
- You haven’t been the desired version of yourself in so long that you forgot what that was like.
- You’ve tried and failed multiple times. That built the idea that losing weight and kicking sugar was hard
So, the good news is that you don’t have to keep swimming against the tide and struggle to ignore your cravings.
All you have to do, is to focus on resetting those self-limiting beliefs of yours.
How to find willpower
Finding willpower is easy with the right method.
First, you need a strong vision and well defined goals.
This means a very clear mental picture of what you want to look like and of how your life would be as that version of yourself.
And then a goal like ‘I am committed to losing x pounds in about x amount of time’.
That was the easy part.
Then comes the tricky part: you must believe that you can be that version of yourself and that you can achieve that goal.
Here’s how to do it:
- Identify all your beliefs that go against or don’t support your goal
- Let go of those beliefs using auto-suggestion. I have a few other powerful exercises to shift your beliefs but they’d be too long to explain in a blog post. Shoot me an email at [email protected] if you want me to send them to you.
I’ll be honest with you. Shifting your beliefs is easy but it does take a little while. It’s more a process than an event. So be patient!
Now that we’ve covered how to find willpower, let me tell you a secret: all that is a great start, but it’s not the end goal.
What you really want is… core power.
That’s when you shift from having a vision to having a purpose.
When you’ve removed enough of the fog to see what you truly want.
At that point, you won’t need willpower to ignore your cravings, because you won’t have cravings in the first place!
That’s when your subconscious has surrendered and aligned with your conscious mind. When you don’t have to do, because you are. You don’t try to eat well. Instead, your whole being craves healthy foods.
I hope that by now, you’ve understood that your lack of self-control is not your fault.
It doesn’t mean you suck, and it’s certainly not an unchangeable trait.
It’s just a misalignment of your conscious and subconscious minds.
So, what you need isn’t more discipline! Nor are dietary pills and supplements (sure they’ll help you lose weight quickly, but they’re super dangerous and not a sustainable option).
What you need is to reset your belief system, to shift it to a more empowering one.
That’s exactly what my guide is for by the way! You can download it right here for free if you want.